Leading with compassion: rethinking how we communicate
Compassion is more than empathy. It is recognizing someone else’s difficulty or pain, feeling moved by it, and choosing to respond with care. Compassion asks, “What can I do to ease this for you?” Sometimes the answer is as simple as choosing kinder words or acknowledging what someone is going through.
When we remember that people are whole humans, each with their own story, struggles, and context, even the simplest messages can make a difference (often in ways we can’t predict).
Start with a pause
Imagine what could happen if, right before hitting “send” on that all-staff email, you… paused. Not out of fear, but out of care.
That pause creates space for intention to meet impact. In that space, you can acknowledge that your note is about to land with someone who may be caring for a sick parent, drowning in deadlines and self‑doubt, or dealing with any number of other unseen personal challenges.
Use that pause to ask a few simple questions:
- How would I receive this message right now?
- Is this the right channel or is there another way to send this that would be kinder/more effective?
- Is sending this right before the end of the day the kindest choice or would tomorrow be better?
Then, choose your words… kindly
Writing with a mindset of kindness is a simple, powerful way to improve clarity and protect relationships. Your words shape how your message is felt, understood, and acted on (or ignored). You can also think of it as writing with emotional intelligence.
Fred Rogers (the kindest neighbour in Mr. Rogers’ neighbourhood) famously reviewed every word in his scripts to ensure they were clear, emotionally sensitive, and child centered. That same care can guide all messaging: Is this clear? Could it be kinder? Is the tone warm? Is there room for misunderstanding?
We all face cognitive strain, emotional overload, and situations that affect how we read and react in any moment. By considering these factors, you can better anticipate how even a well-intended message might be misread or missed altogether.
Being real isn’t risky. Being inauthentic is.
People don’t expect you to have all the answers. But they do expect honesty. That’s why consistently showing up with honesty, humility, and humanity matters – especially when things are hard. When you name what is changing, what is challenging, and what is needed, and do so with care and intention, people are more likely to trust you, even when the message is tough.
Because in those moments, you’re not just delivering a message. You’re leading with compassion.
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